Comment on passe de "je t'aime" à plus rien ? | Sadhguru

The speaker addresses the common perception of love as unconditional, noting that this often leads to unhappiness. They explain that when people feel love, it's an internal experience of emotional sweetness, regardless of who or what might have triggered it. This feeling can be so strong that one perceives external elements, like flowers or birds, as reacting to their love. The core idea presented is that love, in this context, is an internal state. The other person acts as a "key" to unlock this feeling within oneself, but the speaker questions the need for a key if there's no lock or barrier. They liken this reliance on external triggers to an older car model that requires a push-start, contrasting it with modern cars that start automatically. The speaker then poses a rhetorical question: would one prefer to be a "self-starting machine" for joy and love, needing no external stimulation? The speaker advocates for becoming a "self-starting machine" in terms of experiencing joy and love. They suggest that while it's fine for people to currently perceive love in the "air," the crucial aspect is to cultivate this inner capacity. Otherwise, individuals may fall into the trap of trying to "extract" happiness from others, which ultimately leads to relationships becoming tedious and painful. The source of joy, love, and life's exuberance, the speaker emphasizes, must be internal. Relationships, it's explained, can be formed in two ways: to extract something from someone, or to share something with someone. If a relationship is based on extraction, it will become difficult when the "tap" of what is being extracted runs dry. The speaker points out that many relationships that people believe are about absolute love end badly not because of inherent flaws, but because they started with the misconception that another person is the source of one's joy. The origin of both joy and suffering, the speaker asserts, lies within the individual. A humorous anecdote illustrates this point: a man approaches a woman in a park at sunset, professing his love. The romantic atmosphere and the timing (sunset) contribute to the woman believing him. However, once the moment passes, he reveals he must leave to go to his wife, implying his declaration of love was transactional, perhaps to fulfill various needs. The speaker concludes by stressing the importance of experiencing the joy of being loving. This emotional sweetness is deemed necessary for significant life achievements. Without it, attempts to make progress, especially in certain cultural contexts, can lead to frustration. The implication is that cultivating this inner wellspring of love and joy is essential for a fulfilling life and healthy relationships.