How to Ethically Pick Up a Girl Living With Her Boyfriend (Part 2)

This video, part two of a series on approaching women with boyfriends, focuses on navigating situations where a girl has a boyfriend, with a strong emphasis on ethical considerations and realistic expectations. The presenter, James Marshall, clarifies that he does not advocate for actively breaking up couples or ruining existing relationships. He states that generally, when a girl mentions a boyfriend early on, it’s best to move on. However, he explores scenarios where the relationship is clearly in decline, presenting an opportunity. The video then details a specific interaction. Marshall approaches a woman walking down the street, complimenting her "wonderful, very elegant and retro" appearance. He notes that he didn't use a pre-frame, a technique he often employs when a woman is occupied, to avoid appearing intrusive. In this instance, his direct compliment worked because she was simply walking. They discover they have matching blue outfits, and he points out a bandage on his thumb, which leads her to reveal she also has an injury. This shared experience of self-inflicted wounds – his from chopping wood, hers from renovating a wall – creates immediate rapport and a sense of connection. Marshall expresses admiration for her ability to renovate, as it contrasts with his own perceived lack of such skills. He then inquires about her destination, given her attire. She explains she's returning home from the office and enjoys dressing up in the summer, her favorite season. Marshall compliments her radiant appearance, emphasizing the importance of using descriptive adjectives and delivering compliments later in the interaction to add more weight. He then asks for her name, noting that this is a good sign, as it indicates a positive interaction where they are sharing personal details before even knowing each other's names. The conversation shifts to her nationality. She claims to be Australian but has altered her voice so he can understand her, jokingly stating that Australians are incomprehensible. Marshall uses this as a springboard for a humorous anecdote about a past client who spoke Australian English, leading to confusion. He clarifies that his voice alteration is a routine he uses, and he encourages the use of effective routines that work. As they approach a DM (pharmacy), Marshall observes her body language subtly angling towards the entrance. He deduces she will be going in and states he won't follow her as it's her private time. He then transitions to his "close," asking if she'd like to get tea sometime, framing it by saying she seems lovely. This is where the boyfriend objection arises. She replies, "I don't know because I live with my boyfriend." Marshall then explains how to handle the boyfriend objection, distinguishing between early-stage objections and those that arise after a positive interaction. If a girl mentions a boyfriend within the first few seconds, he advises to politely disengage and move on, not to acknowledge the boyfriend or try to "pass tribute to the alpha." However, if a connection has been made, as in this scenario, he suggests probing gently. He asks if her living situation is "serious." Her response reveals that it is serious, but they might separate because the flat is hers, implying a potential move towards independence. Marshall interprets this as a sign that the relationship is on its way out. He then asks for her WhatsApp number, proposing a unique approach: he won't contact her for a significant period, suggesting two months, then revising to one month. This strategy, he explains, is to give her space as she extricates herself from her current relationship, demonstrating understanding and patience, and positioning himself as the future contact. The interaction continues with a playful exchange about communication methods. She jokes about using carrier pigeons, and he steers the conversation towards more modern options like WhatsApp or Telegram. He expresses a preference for Telegram for discreet conversations, as Instagram can be more distracting with constant notifications. Ultimately, they settle on Facebook Messenger, and she provides her name, which leads to a humorous discussion about its origin and the existence of another person with the same name who is a pole dancer. Marshall humorously states he will add the "elegant" version of her, not the pole dancer. The video concludes with Marshall reiterating his stance on approaching women with boyfriends. He emphasizes that he doesn't condone breaking up happy couples. However, he believes it's acceptable to pursue women whose relationships are clearly ending or are in their final stages, as these relationships were likely to end regardless. He sees obtaining contact information as a "soft close," allowing for future contact. He dismisses "boyfriend destroyer techniques" as ineffective and potentially harmful. He explains that the boyfriend objection can sometimes be a "spring-loaded" excuse for women to dismiss unwanted advances. The key, he suggests, is to make a strong initial impression that prevents this objection from arising. If it does arise and it's a genuine excuse, he advises to move on. He concludes by promoting his coaching services, highlighting that learning these skills is crucial for men and can lead to significant improvements in their dating lives, enabling them to find suitable partners. He emphasizes that finding a high-quality partner, like the woman who can renovate her own house, often requires developing these social skills, as such individuals are unlikely to be found in typical club or app environments.