“Sexuality Is In The WRONG Place” - Sadhguru QUESTIONS Why Desire Becomes Obsession

The discussion begins with a question about how men manage sexual urges, particularly within marriage. The speaker notes that relationships are formed due to physical, psychological, emotional, social, and sometimes financial needs. He asserts that modern society, especially in the United States, has overly exaggerated the physical aspect of human existence. To illustrate this point, the speaker recounts an experience with a top PR consultant he met after an "Inner Engineering" program. The consultant offered a free consultation, and the speaker asked why their online program, despite positive feedback from participants, wasn't reaching millions. The consultant explained that in the U.S., a program would only achieve mass appeal if it promised wealth, weight loss, or a 10x increase in libido. The speaker declined to make such claims, choosing to remain authentic to the program's true value, even if it meant not reaching millions. The conversation then shifts to the nature of desire itself. The speaker emphasizes that desire is an inherent part of human existence, essential for procreation and the continuation of life. He explains that the desire exists because there's pleasure or satisfaction embedded in the system. However, he argues that the problem arises when sexuality, which is a physical need, becomes predominantly "in the head" rather than remaining "in the body." He draws an analogy with money: having money in your pocket is good and provides comfort, allowing you to pursue creative activities. But if money "gets to your head," it can make you sick. Similarly, sexuality should remain "in the body" as a limited sphere of life. When it enters the head, it becomes a perversion, ruling one's thoughts and perceptions. He attributes this over-intellectualization of sexuality, in part, to figures like Sigmund Freud, whom he describes as "quite sick" and "fearful of death," yet whose principles heavily influenced societal views on sexuality. The speaker argues that this "perversion" of sexuality being overly in the head leads to suffering rather than enjoyment. He observes that even in societies with high promiscuity or openness, many individuals suffer from the urge because it's not in its proper place. He shares an anecdote about a senior vice president in a law firm who noted that her male colleagues, all over 50-60, would exclusively discuss women's body parts during lunch. This illustrates how sexuality has become a pervasive social topic, even in professional settings. The conversation further delves into the impact of modern phenomena like OnlyFans and the pursuit of extreme sexual records, such as a woman claiming to have slept with 1,57 men in 12 hours. The speaker expresses concern about the attention these stories receive and the negative consequences of early exposure to pornography. He highlights how it can distort young minds, leading to an inability to see others, including family members, in any other light, and causing immense distress, even suicide in some cases. He reiterates that sexual instinct is natural and necessary for life, but it's a matter of balance, similar to food consumption. Just as one needs consciousness about how much to eat, physical needs like sexuality must be satisfied without being pursued as the ultimate goal of life. It's not about right or wrong, but about appropriate integration and not letting it dominate one's entire being.