MY GAME DIED 💀

The video discusses how to deal with "dry spells" in dating, which occur when someone who was previously successful suddenly finds their game no longer working. The speaker emphasizes that fluctuations are normal, regardless of experience level, and that the overall tendency of progress should be upward if one continues to engage in the "game." A key takeaway is to learn from both the low (dry spell) and high phases. The speaker suggests that dry spells are actually beneficial because they force introspection and reflection, leading to stronger overall game. When things are going well, there's less incentive to analyze and improve. Enjoying and learning from dry spells is presented as a crucial mindset shift. The concept of ego is explored in relation to self-confidence. Self-confidence is described as a steady line, while ego is a balloon attached to it, influenced by results. Success inflates the ego and confidence, while rejection and dry spells deflate them, creating a downward spiral. The solution proposed is to detach the ego from self-confidence, ensuring that confidence remains steady regardless of external results. This prevents negative outcomes from impacting one's game. The speaker also touches upon the origin of dry spells, particularly for newcomers. Initial excitement and a low threshold for success characterize the early stages. As one gains experience and achieves more significant milestones (like getting laid), the criteria for success shifts, and the focus becomes repeating those specific achievements. This can lead to self-imposed pressure and a loss of the lighthearted enjoyment of smaller victories. To combat this, the speaker advises nurturing the "inner newbie" – that initial excitement for every small interaction and success, no matter how minor. Celebrating every step, like a first approach or a brief interaction, is crucial. Comparing oneself to others is strongly discouraged, as it's unproductive. Instead, individuals should compare their learning and progress to their past selves, focusing on the knowledge gained from experiences, both good and bad. This emphasis on learning and continuous action, even during dry spells, is presented as the path to significant growth and becoming the desired version of oneself. The speaker concludes by mentioning upcoming bootcamps in Europe.