How to Pick Up B*tchy Hot Girls

The speaker recounts an interaction with an attractive woman on the street, highlighting the common mistake of making assumptions based on appearance. He initially perceived the woman as potentially "mean" due to her serious expression, almost talking himself out of approaching her. He emphasizes that such assumptions are often incorrect, as people can have "deadpan" faces but be friendly, or smile but be "nasty." The key takeaway is to "go find out" rather than assuming. During the initial approach, the speaker admits to feeling awkward and being "on the back foot" because of his preconceived notion that she would be mean. He used an opener that played on her serious face, but his discomfort was evident. However, he notes that it's possible to recover from an imperfect start. The woman quickly engaged in banter, challenging his assumptions. The interaction progresses with light teasing. The speaker teases her about scheduling her smiles and laughter, to which she playfully responds by linking it to a German stereotype. He then reveals he's Australian, known for not planning. This back-and-forth demonstrates a "spicy" banter, where both parties are quick-witted and able to keep up with each other, rather than it being a "zero-sum game." The speaker stresses the importance of being able to handle a woman who can "be spicy back" and increase the tension playfully. He also points out that this kind of pressurized banter should be brief before transitioning into more rapport-based conversation. Later, the conversation turns to the woman's studies, where the speaker makes an inference about her studying law or economics. He acknowledges a "little mistake" in being "unnecessarily arrogant" when she confirms his guess, stating it was "obvious" rather than accepting her compliment. This indicates his continued slight discomfort in the situation. The discussion then moves to a local coffee shop. The woman expresses dislike for the coffee and finds the staff "super rude." The speaker disagrees, stating he visits daily and finds them nice. He uses this as an example of how to disagree with a woman respectfully, especially one with strong opinions. He argues that it's acceptable to debate "things that don't matter," like coffee shop rudeness or ice cream preferences, to show an independent opinion and avoid being a "pushover." However, he cautions against engaging in serious political or religious debates in a playful context. He then shifts the topic by asking about a singing man at the coffee shop, introducing another point of playful disagreement before resolving the tension by explaining the man's spiritual affiliations. As the interaction concludes, the speaker decides to "close" the interaction, noting he's had a long day. He qualifies his initial assessment of her, telling her she's "more chill than I was expecting." He then asks her for coffee, not at the current location, and she agrees. He observes her body language, noting she crosses her legs as they discuss getting her contact information. He advises against overthinking specific body language cues, instead focusing on general comfort or discomfort. He emphasizes that if a woman's body language suggests too much pressure, one should adjust their own. Logistics about travel plans arise, with the speaker mentioning a two-week trip to Portugal, and the woman revealing she'll be away for a month. The speaker interprets her concern about their conflicting schedules as a positive sign, indicating genuine interest rather than an intent to "flake." He then reiterates that they'll "figure it out." As they finalize the exchange, she asks him to "call me," which he also sees as a strong indicator of genuine interest, as she's ensuring he has the correct number. Finally, the speaker describes a smooth exit, where he and the woman walk off simultaneously after the exchange, with a light touch on her arm. He advises against overly celebratory or scrutinizing behavior after getting a number, instead recommending a "cool" demeanor, and checking the number only once the person is out of sight. The speaker concludes by reiterating the main point: don't let assumptions prevent you from approaching people. He encourages people to "go and find out" in real life, as initial appearances can be misleading. He then promotes his upcoming infield workshops in Budapest, Hungary, for those interested in improving their interaction skills.