
TWO GIRLS… ONE DECISION 😳
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The speaker addresses a common dilemma in dating: choosing between an established, easy, and predictable "friends with benefits" situation offering guaranteed sex, and a newer, more intriguing girl who requires more investment and offers less certainty. The speaker presents this as a "blue pill or red pill" choice, but then immediately rejects the premise of having to choose at all. Instead, the core message is to aim for abundance and to "get the two girls." The speaker emphasizes that the listener is there to learn a skill set that should open them to the idea of doing anything they want in this area, given the abundance of girls and only one of them.
The speaker highlights that the priority should be developing one's skill set, not the individual girl, as true happiness and choice come from personal capability, similar to a wealthy person having many options. Questions about choosing between two girls are seen as indicative of spending too much time thinking instead of acting, and focusing on "peanuts" rather than higher, long-term problems. The speaker suggests that with enough "reference experience," one should intuitively know the likely outcome of investing time in a particular interaction, but stresses that there are no guarantees.
The fundamental question, according to the speaker, is not about the specific girl in front of you, but about what you are trying to achieve—is it the skill set or merely the immediate girl? The speaker's personal answer, long established, is to always prioritize the long-term goal. If faced with two girls, the speaker would 100% choose the "harder set"—the one that is more attractive and more challenging to get, even if it has a lower chance of immediate results. This is because learning is the only way to get better results, and current knowledge dictates current outcomes. A lack of knowledge leads to gambling and relying on luck, rather than focusing on the right metrics.
The speaker shares a personal anecdote, stating that they no longer "date girls" in the traditional sense due to time constraints. The last time they took a girl on a date was their girlfriend, and it was with the specific intention of having a threesome. They recall dating multiple girls back-to-back in the past, indicating that managing multiple relationships is not an inherent problem.
The speaker criticizes the tendency to think short-term, calling it a "bad habit." True happiness comes from who you become, not from the outcome with any specific girl. If one is listening to this, it's because their dating results are not meeting expectations, implying a need for personal change and learning. Successful individuals, described as "best natural" guys, don't ask these types of questions because their lives are so fulfilling that girls would be "begging" to date them, and they wouldn't have time for traditional dating. The focus should be on long-term growth and always picking the "hardest set" because it yields better long-term outcomes. Short-term thinking, characterized by "little leaps," hinders growth.
The speaker suggests trying approaches that are most uncomfortable, even those believed unlikely to work, as a way to learn. Getting a girl on a date and "closing" is described as "easy," with success rates expected to be "insane" (70-80% or higher). Cold approach, however, is harder due to varying circumstances and logistics, but it removes the entire "date setup." The speaker personally avoids traditional dating because the "arrangement logistic" of texting multiple girls and coordinating schedules is too time-consuming. Girls always have other commitments and are being pursued by many others, making logistical coordination complex. In contrast, meeting a girl in a nightclub or bar allows for immediate discernment of logistical issues.
The speaker reiterates that with a developed skill set, questions about strategy and "funneling girls" become unnecessary. The focus shifts to more productive activities that contribute to overall success as a man. Texting girls should be purely for logistics, like confirming a meeting place, rather than elaborate planning. The underlying issue in the initial question, deciding where to spend time between two girls, is always about logistics. If one of the options is an established "friends with benefits" that requires no effort, the speaker still advocates for growth by pursuing the "harder girl" and gaining "reps" and "reference experience." This learning process transforms one into a different man who doesn't need to worry about such trivial choices.
The speaker emphasizes that time is life's biggest asset. One should carefully consider how to spend time, always choosing to challenge oneself by going for the "harder set" and things that require "balls." Staying with one girl and expecting self-development is described as self-deception. The speaker believes that questions arising from forums or boot camps often stem from "scarcity" and a short-term versus long-term perspective. While immediate logistical questions can be valid in a live situation (e.g., which girl in a club to approach), the fundamental question of choosing between an established situation and a new, harder prospect should always lean towards the latter for growth.
Finally, the speaker encourages continuously adding girls to the "funnel" and learning to manage multiple interactions. While juggling many girls can be a "little nightmare" due to remembering names, preferences, and details, it’s part of the process of growth. The speaker concludes by reinforcing the importance of long-term thinking over short-term thinking for overall success and announces upcoming events.