
Quel est l'intérêt du couple ?
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The video discusses the purpose of a couple, responding to a viewer's comment that reducing the couple to male intimacy and female financial gain is simplistic and sad. The speaker reiterates their belief that for men, the couple offers little intrinsic interest, while for women, it serves as a means to extract maximum financial benefit. This dynamic, the "asymmetry of desire," where men supposedly have more desire and women more pleasure, is presented as a societal issue.
The speaker advocates for men to be "going their own way" (Mik Tao Men Going Their Own Way), suggesting that a chosen single life is the most satisfying. When relationships with women are necessary, they should be transactional and "without subscription," contrasting this with the "subscription" of a couple, which the speaker believes doesn't work.
However, the speaker acknowledges that for those who choose to be in a couple, the primary, if not sole, key element is the ability to have a relationship, meaning sexual intimacy. To demonstrate this, a thought experiment is proposed: imagine a couple with the most beautiful woman in the world, with whom you share great conversations, activities, and laughter, and have sublime intimate relations. If, by contract, you eliminate the possibility of intimacy forever, the speaker argues that it would no longer be a couple. Conversely, if you have extraordinary intimate relationships but the woman is never more than a sexual partner and never a companion for other aspects of life, you would still consider yourselves in a couple. This is because, according to the speaker, men in couples seek to secure their intimate relationship, not other forms of companionship.
The speaker dismisses the idea that friendship, shared activities, and laughter with a partner are the core of a relationship, calling it a "myth" and a "vision of a woman." The speaker contends that activities like playing, going to the cinema, or simply enjoying oneself can be done with friends and do not require a romantic partnership. The speaker insists that the couple ultimately leads to frustration, inhibition, and financial drain on the man.
Furthermore, the speaker criticizes the "doctrine of the couple" as a "package" deal where individuals are expected to fulfill multiple roles. The speaker prefers a utilitarian approach, assigning people to specific activities based on their function, rather than expecting a single partner to encompass all aspects of life. This is contrasted with the idea of a woman fulfilling various roles (e.g., chef, nurse, philosopher) within a marriage, which the speaker deems inefficient and not always optimal, especially as a woman ages. The speaker also notes that while an intelligent but unattractive woman can be interesting to talk to, a beautiful but unintelligent woman is less so, especially if she is also not exciting.
The video concludes by asking for viewer opinions and wishing them a good day.