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The speaker addresses a common question from students: "Is it too late to approach?" This question, often arising from hesitation, highlights the importance of mindset in cold approaching. Cold approaching is fundamentally about creating opportunities to meet people, and it's a human interaction that embraces natural spontaneity and even awkwardness. The speaker emphasizes that a perfect interaction can become boring, and authenticity is key. The core message is that it's *never* too late to approach. This is illustrated by a story about a student who saw an attractive girl at a university during lunchtime, but due to indecision and lack of an opener, missed the opportunity. He felt shame and regret, believing the chance was gone forever. The speaker shares a powerful technique learned from someone named Tyler. Tyler would intentionally delay approaching an attractive woman, even if it meant she was moving to a VIP area, catching a bus, or with high-status individuals. He would then force himself to approach anyway. The purpose of this "punishment" was to train his brain. By making himself approach even when it was more difficult and awkward, he was teaching himself that delaying only increased the discomfort and that immediate action was the better strategy. This approach helps overcome the fear of awkwardness and missed opportunities. While the speaker acknowledges that technical skills in "game" (approaching and interacting with women) are important, he stresses that mindset is paramount. He mentions that he still engages in day game, even having had a recent intimate encounter that originated from a day game approach in New York City. He asserts that the skill set for day game is the same as for night game. A crucial aspect of successful day game is expectation management. The speaker advises going out with the intention of seeing and approaching attractive women. He notes that during the day, women often have more immediate plans and logistics can be more challenging than in a nightclub setting where people are typically there to socialize and have more leisure time. However, this doesn't make it impossible. The speaker warns against being caught off guard. If you don't expect to encounter attractive women, you're more likely to be unprepared when you do, leading to hesitation and missed opportunities. This is where having pre-planned "can openers" or situational openers can be helpful. These are natural, context-specific lines that can initiate interaction without requiring extensive thought. However, even without a perfect opener, the speaker insists that you should still approach. He reiterates the idea of "punishing" the behavior of not approaching when you feel you should have. He downplays the lasting impact of bad or awkward interactions, stating that he doesn't remember them because they are overshadowed by more intense or successful ones. He posits that out of thousands of cold approaches, the ones you *don't* make are the ones you will regret. To avoid self-recrimination, the speaker suggests being intentional about your day. If your goal is to meet women, book specific time for it, perhaps disguised as grabbing lunch. If you're simply out for a quick errand, don't beat yourself up for every attractive woman you pass. This constant self-criticism is described as a "nightmare" and detrimental to one's energy. However, if you are explicitly "gaming" or out with the intent to approach, then you should aim for a high percentage of approaches. The speaker advises clarity on your intent: "Am I here to talk to pretty girls and maybe pull one? Do I have enough time to do that?" If not, it's okay to adjust your expectations. He mentions that he doesn't often follow up with phone numbers, suggesting it can be an excuse for guys. The key is to plan accordingly. If you decide to go out with the intention of approaching, then you must do it, even if you feel it's "too late." This is about training your brain not to be a "pitch" – someone who hesitates and misses opportunities. Regarding technical aspects, the speaker says not to worry too much about behind-the-scenes approaches. While can openers are useful, if a compliment is the only thing that comes to mind, it's better to say it. He acknowledges that some, like "Jeff," dislike compliments, but in the absence of anything else, a direct statement of attraction is better than silence. He emphasizes the importance of eye contact, posture, and overall energy to enhance the interaction. Directness and boldness are encouraged, but one must be prepared to follow through. In day game, it's crucial to quickly assess the logistical situation. After a brief initial interaction, the speaker advises trying to gauge how much time you have with the person. He notes that you often won't have much time during a casual daytime encounter, which might be a point to close for a phone number. He mentions that collecting numbers during a lunch break can be very efficient. In summary, for students asking if it's too late to approach, the answer is a resounding no. However, it's also important not to beat yourself up if you're not in a situation where approaching is your primary goal. The key is to be honest and intentful about your objectives. Being "intentful" is presented as a crucial takeaway. The speaker concludes by mentioning upcoming boot camps and wishing the audience well.